All humans need empathy and validation. We need to be seen, understood, and accepted.
Routines help us feel safe and in control. They reduce the mental load of regular tasks, and keep everything from being a negotiation with our kids.
The technical term for this is “parental self-regulation.” Practice the ability to stay above the storm as your child releases emotions, even when they seem like personal attacks.
Genuine connection with our kids starts with listening to them. Listening lets them know they matter and usually helps empathize with their point of view.
Limits are one of the most essential and misunderstood parts of parenting. Limits are good for kids and build emotional intelligence, if you set them with love and compassion.